When angry at child

Wachanga psychologist gives advice to parents on how to act in difficult situations and maintain a good relationship with their baby.

First rule - don't yell at your child

If you raise your voice to a child, then in the future they will either accumulate this anger and reciprocate at a higher volume, or various psychological defense and negative coping mechanisms will develop.

1. Take a deep breath and think about what you feel bad about at the moment and what exactly you are angry about.
2. Express your dissatisfaction in a calm tone.

Don't ask too much of your baby

You should not try to fulfill your dreams through a child. Your little one will not necessarily be like you in their aspirations, abilities, and goals. Just look for what they do best and encourage it.

Be an example

Children are a mirror of their parents: they repeat many things their parents do, especially often when you are not around. Show your skills, strength, and character, not negative behavior. In this way, you will instill the best qualities in your child.

Discuss, help, persuade

• Discuss life with your child.
• Help them feel like home is a secure fortress where they can get advice and feel safe.
• Help your kid understand that they, the child, are responsible for their actions.
• Do not solve all problems and conflicts for the child, but help them handle it.

Spend time together

• Read books.
• Go to the movies.
• Walk and so on.

Answer your children's questions

Answer your child’s questions, even if their question seems awkward

Don’t avoid difficult subjects

• Be honest.
• Even talk about unpleasant things.
• Remember that someday your child will have to live an independent life.

Admit your mistakes

Just be fair and say that you are wrong. Your authority will not suffer, and the child will understand that they may be right and wil feel good about themselves.

Remember: often the child does not want to anger you at all - your anger is your reaction to the child's actions.

Try to follow the advice of our psychologist. Briefly describe how you are doing and how your child responds to the change in behavior.